We are so excited about our new store! Located in downtown Port Jefferson Village, New York. We are across from Ruvo Restaurant and around the corner from a great wine boutique called Vine to Wine! Oh the scents coming from Ruvo is making us hungry when we are setting up. Come by shop and visit, have lunch or dinner at Ruvo and stop by Vine to Wine for a tasting. We are pleased to announce that Thymely Designs will be offering products at our shop. Thymely Designs offers a unique selection of one of a kind, created and re-created vintage and antique furniture and gift offerings. New stock is coming in every day and we are excited to announce we will soon have clothing and jewelry! For now you can find Dash and Albert rugs, Pine Cone Hill bedding, Bella Notte Linens, Beth Quinn jewelry, Mangiacotti and Farmhouse Home Keeping Products, Vintage furniture, dried lavender, lavender sachets, French Soaps and so much more!
Photos of the shop coming soon!
Location and Hours:
The Shops at Lavender Fields
318 Wynn Lane
Port Jefferson, New York 11777
Tuesday and Wednesday closed until Memorial Day
Friday, March 28, 2014
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to be a certain way. Be unique. Be what you feel. -Melissa Etheridge
A majority of working mothers are empowered as role models for their children, have professional ambitions and feel like they are receiving support from their spouses and families despite a lack of childcare benefits offered by their workplaces.
Getting a degree and entering the workforce can have additional benefits as well. A new study conducted by Care.com reveals that working moms are happy working outside of the home, despite the fact that balancing their professional life with their family responsibilities can be difficult.
"Most love being a great role model for their children and many feel more creative and motivated as a working-parent and even feel they add a better perspective at their jobs now that they are moms," said Katie Bugbee, managing editor of Care.com.
Let go of the Guilt
Remind yourself that if you choose to combine motherhood with a career then you have to make sacrifices. You can’t be super woman. There will be sacrifices and compromises. Fact. You need to mitigate the things that are most important to you.
Review why you need to work. What are your motivations? What does having a career mean to you? For me there is a financial incentive to working and a sense of purpose.
Ask your kids. Yes. Ask your kids. What would being a great mom mean to them? It’s amazing what they will say. It’s wonderful to ask for their feedback and even though it feels somewhat scary, you don’t have to do everything they have asked for! They will feel so happy that you even care to ask. Go on – be brave and ask.
Great Role Model
Having a career will show your children something they can aspire towards in their future. While your kids may not choose a path similar to yours, they will have grown up seeing that they have many options available to them. The choices you make about living life will guide them as they make choices about their own adult lives.
Although no Mom enjoys leaving their children every day, you will always come back and, they thrive in your absence. By not hovering over them constantly, your children will learn to become independent and confident. And, in turn, that will make you feel really proud of them and yourself.
You get to Wear Nice Clothes
At home it is easy to stay in sweats all day, every day. If you do throw on a cute outfit - with little kids you probably get covered in food amongst other things. While sometimes getting dressed for business is annoying, it’s nice to make it through the day in a nice, clean outfit.
Everyone Pitches In
Your kids will learn that everyone has a responsibility to contribute and help their family. Everyone has responsibilities: making the bed, taking out the garbage, or walking the dog. You are teaching them to be independent, responsible, and socially capable.
Work Gives Me an Identity Beyond “Mommy”Being a mother is the most important job. But, most women want to have a deeper sense of self. Being a mother does not have to be how you define yourself, or your sole purpose for being. Working allows you to identify yourself separate and independent from your family.
Friday, March 14, 2014
More moms than ever are in the workforce. According to AmericanProgress.org, "women now make up half of all workers in the United States, with nearly 4 in 10 homes having a mom that is also a working mother." Being a full-time working mother can lead to feelings of guilt and stress because of divided attention between work and family. The key is to focus on a plan, get organized, and find the right balance between profession and parenthood.
We interviewed Anahata Katkin, the founder, artist and owner of a successful business
What inspired you to start your business?
My Mom, Gina and I started the business together with a goal of creating a more inspirational line of products that would reflect our aesthetic and effect others.
What inspires your creativity?
I like the place where pretty and gritty meet. Where flowers, faces and ink run together. I’m inspired endlessly by plants, travel, textiles, folk arts, Asian influences and faces...always faces. I build artwork then I tend to overlay a character or mood that I feel emerges as I go. I believe in working from impulse-to-impulse and not thinking too hard during the process. I make artwork for myself and then take it from there. Creativity is a sort of relationship, and you work on it throughout your life. It’s an endless process and dialogue between yourself and the unknown. And you get better at listening and honing in on that magic the more you pursue creativity itself. It’s never easy, per say, but it’s always rewarding and keeps me coming back to the drawing board.
As a working mom what tips and tricks can you give us on how to juggle it all?
I think it’s really important to not over think things. Try not to formalize what you are doing. If you are a writer, you have to write. if you are a painter, you have to paint. Period. Whatever you are working towards as a mother and business person you just have to get down and dirty right in the middle of it all. When my son was small he just wanted to be near me and play. So I found using an art studio was a waste. I needed to be near the kitchen and my son in the living room. So I dragged my art materials to the center of the home for the past ten years. I took over the dining table, the living room floor, you name it. That way I didn’t have to create separate time for all of my demands. Working in a studio felt weird and sectioned off from the rest of my family. And I felt I could only go “in there” when he was sleeping or occupied, and so never used it. We started shipping from our kitchen at first and I just had to make work a part of home life. And let my little guy just bounce around underneath my feet. I could make art while we watched movies, or helped him with homework from the same room. I have friends who need a certain kind of peace to create art. No one around, no distractions. But to be productive and keep up with your life demands it’s worth getting over that. I trained myself to just make art in the midst of it all. There’s no other way to do enough of it, if you want to create at a professional pace. That’s the best advice I have for moms. Practice working on what you love and multi tasking. Children are built to be part of that practice. Most countries work and parent at the same time. It’s part of our human history, and it’s ok to make it part of their job to help you juggle your time.
How do you deal with days when you truly need to be in two places at once. When you need to be there for your children but yet your business has urgent issues to deal with?
Ugh. I still struggle with this. It’s easier now that my son is a teenager. He is more flexible and can be alone for bits of time. But quality time is a harder thing to carve out. I have started forcing him to be part of my rush. If I need to run errands, I try and ask him to come with me, just so that we laugh, catch up and talk along the way. At least having a teen, means finding sneakier ways of connecting, than when he was little. I can’t snuggle him to death anymore, so I seek out moments in our day where we can overlap, even if it’s not exciting. It seems to really help. And I have personally experienced burn out from overworking. So I am now much more mindful and careful about taking time for myself. Which inevitably means time for my son. Going for walks, cooking, spending down time, and even routine help us stay close. But I am always struggling with the balance just like any mom.
Since business is growing, do you feel you have more or less time at home?
When we where growing the business, I was always home. And for smaller kiddos, that was perfect. But with the major growth I have to travel, and work outside the house a great deal. But that was a real life choice. And it felt good after mothering from home for 8 years, it was a nice change to get back into the outside world more. Now I enjoy both. My home days are restorative and rewarding, and my days in our boutique or on the road are energizing. I get to express more fully the spectrum of my personality. And I think it's great for creative types to have things to bounce between. I believe it makes it possible to do more. I couldn't paint all day, everyday. I would get fried and bored. So when I max out in one division of our business, I bounce to another. It keeps a constant flow. Only now we have a lot of divisions, and bouncing is getting trickier and more advanced. But a couple brainwave channels to work off of is a great idea for any business person. It keeps the flow going and keeps you sane.
How do you turn off your business when you want to spend quality time with your children?
Do you shut off your computer and phone?
I should! We don’t do that enough. Being driven in my career has definitely taken a tole on parenting. And we are working as a household to be more balanced. Some times we do better than others depending what’s going on. I also am lucky enough to have a great co-parenting relationship with my sons dad. It’s the one luxury of split parenting is that you can better divide your work and personal time. On the days I don’t have my son I can go overtime and get more done. Then I switch gears when he’s home. It wasn’t always this way, but we’ve developed a great system over the years.
If you had one wish for your business what would it be?
Of course a successful business, and we have that. But a truly healthy business is our goal. With lots of room for balance, true creativity and gratitude. Quality of life is everything. And now that we have built some successful business models, and worked our butts off for many years, we are working on integrating more balance personally, as well as for our employees and creating a more holistic atmosphere. Ideally maintaining those goals, while growing our business, that is my idea of true success.
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Friday, March 7, 2014
You can meet some amazing people through blogging. I stumbled across Dawn’s blog, Hydrangea Home when I was searching for some ideas for my party favors. I discovered Hydrangea Home and Dawn. I contacted Dawn and asked if she can make pretty paper cones that I found on her blog. She was happy to make them even though I was already on a tight deadline.
Every detail was perfect from the embossed paper to the red roses which was the theme of the christening. Dawn added that special touch by hand delivering the favors. It is those touches, those details that can make a business successful. Make a business stand out.
We proudly Introduce this weeks guest blogger:
Hydrangea home is a small business on Long Island specializing in handmade home decor, art/photography, hand painted furniture and beautiful unique items for the home.
I have considered teaching but it's not in the immediate future unless I can create longer days!
My online shop is filled with a little bit of everything I love. Our biggest sellers are our handmade wood boxes and trays which have distressed chalk paint finishes. They are a popular item for home and event decorating. I also really enjoy creating vintage style signs with french typography. Some of my other passions are creating preserved floral arrangements, art and photography and due to my habit of collecting, I have become a supplier of some gorgeous ribbons as well.
That's a tough one that I've been working on for a long time (19 years)! We are a family of six with a very busy color coded calendar. Now that the kids are getting older, they help out a bit more around the house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, driving is shared by all. We manage to have healthy home made meals, and I get to make it to almost all of the kids' sporting and school events. However, that does mean working all kinds of crazy hours, early morning, late night and weekends. I am not really able to keep a set schedule due to all of the events but I wouldn't want it any other way. When you love what you do, it's not really work!